Quiz: Are You a Jerk Magnet?
By Marcia Jedd
Ladies, do you attract the wrong guys? Jerks, cads and users? Jerks are annoying foolish or stupid people. Put this into dating and relationships, and you've got a guy who treats you poorly — often out of their "me first" opportunistic behavior or lack of emotional intelligence. Take this quiz to determine if you're a jerk magnet.
1. Your last dating relationship ended because:
a. It fizzled, the spark was lost (score = 5)
b. That rubbernecker? He wasn't really into the relationship or ran off with someone else (score = 10)
c. You broke it off (score = 0)
2. One of your recent dates did this:
a. Took you to cheap places or only on discounts like two-for-one coupons (score = 10)
b. Didn't open the car door or ask for your preferences (score = 5)
c. Brought you flowers because he likes you (score = 0)
3. When you went to a party with your last boyfriend, he:
a. Chatted up all the single women there, often disappearing for awhile (score = 10)
b. Stood by your side the entire evening and introduced you to anyone you didn't know (score = 0)
c. Mostly stayed near you, but didn't include you in conversations or introduce you (score = 5)
4. When you needed assistance from a boyfriend, such as needing a ride or having your computer fixed, he:
a. He gladly offered to assist you (score = 0)
b. Left you high and dry, saying it wasn't convenient for him to help you or gave excuses (score = 10)
c. Agreed to help you only after you asked more than once or couldn't find other help (score = 5)
5. Thinking back to what attracted you to the love(s) of your life, you've now realized:
a. I fall for the charisma — I seem to like and are attracted to bad boys, such as guys who womanize or show little respect or boundaries for others (score = 10)
b. I've always followed my own heart — Sometimes I've gotten hurt (score = 0)
c. It's difficult to say or a mixed bag — Some of the boyfriends have been users or bad boys, others have been like the boy next door (score = 5)
Jerk O-Meter ScoringThe higher your score, the more you've attracted jerks.
0-15: Good for you. You've managed your relationships well. You've reached this point without having too much heartache or withstanding dupes by jerks. You are on your way to finding true love.
20-30: You may have had some great relationships, and some mediocre ones, noted by an occasional jerk. A run of bad luck? Perhaps. Fine tune what you want out of your relationships and put your own needs first.
35-higher: You keep attracting jerks. Take your own personal assessment for your best and worst qualities. Then, take a look at any some hidden reasons behind your attraction to the bad boys. It's time you put yourself first and expect the best in return from others.
